the only law is bone law

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Being liked is overrated. Wanting to be liked means tempering your thoughts as to not offend. Wanting to be liked means not arguing vociferously with a female peer - something that could improve and add to your ideas - for fear that they’ll be insulted or that they won’t want to be friends. Wanting to be liked means agonizing over every negative comment in an online thread, even if they’re coming from people you don’t care about and don’t think much of.

Wanting to be liked means being a supporting character in your own life, using the cues of the actors around you to determine your next line rather than your own script. It means that your self-worth will always be tied to what someone else thinks about you, forever out of your control.

And truly, living in a constant state of self-deprecation is no way to be. Humbleness does not protect you from sexism - it just makes the slights harder to see.

From my latest at The Nation, “She Who Dies With the Most ‘Likes’ Wins?” (via jessicavalenti)

Excellent piece. (via therecipe)

haha this is important for me to remember

part of my anxiety involves trying desperately, futilely to please everyone and everything around me, even total strangers, or at least not offend them with my existence or interests or background or whatever 

it makes it incredibly hard for me to stand up for myself or anything important to me